Grief expert Tom Query and Ruth Van Reken answers questions from caller.
Jan, Port Moody asks: “So many losses have accumulated over time. I feel like I ended up with a loss mentality where I now EXPECT losses. I believe this thinking invites more loss and is defeating.
How can someone who’s had so many losses from a TCK lifestyle free themselves from this pattern?”
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Keypoints:
* Having a victim mentality and thinking catastrophically “What’s the next bad thing that’s going to happen?” can be controlling in someone’s life.
*Neuropsychology says past experiences lays “road tracks” in the brain and new experiences can help you re-learn new behaviors.
*Delusion of choice: When we’ve given up making choices because we think: “Everytime we make a choice it never happens anyway.”
* You can learn through joy.
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