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Weird girl from Asia: “How Being Understood Helped Me Overcome Chronic Fatigue & Find a Relationship” – 15. May, 2010

Everyday, we help hundreds of people like Angela realize “they’re not alone” through education and community. Here are their untold stories:

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From: Angela
Subject: Thank you!!

I love love LOVE tckid!

I lived in Kuala Lumpur for several years when I was younger and when I moved back to Wellington, NZ where I was born no one understood me.

I was the weird girl that came from Asia!

For the first year back I was really sick. I spent the majority of that year at home in bed. My doctor had no idea what was wrong with me and neither did any of the specialists I was referred to. I had a constant headache and aching body. In the end I was diagnosed with chronic fatigue syndrome; I suspect the doctors just wanted a diagnosis at that point.

After that first year things got better and I went back to school. I had lots of friends but kept quite a distance from everyone emotionally – I felt that I had to be careful not to start conversations with “In Malaysia…” as it bored my classmates. When I was 18 I was diagnosed with depression and put on medication for a couple of years. I was 21 when things started to get better for me emotionally and I came off the anti depressants and started to really live again.

I am now very happy in my life and so glad for my experiences living overseas and being part of other cultures. I am very happily engaged to a Chinese Malaysian man who was born in Malaysia and moved to New Zealand when he was 4. Coincidence? :)

Finding TCKid has been such a relief for me.

It’s funny how you can really, truly believe that you are the only person that has had these experiences and the only person that feels so confused and lonely but in actual fact there are so many people out there who can relate! You are doing such a great thing and I am so inspired by you.

I could go on and on and on and on and on… but I think I’ll leave it at that for now. Keep up the great work and thanks so much for making me realise that I am not alone!! You rock :)

Ange.
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Re: Thank you!!

This is a deeply personal story for me, but I am happy for you to share it.

This is the first time I have truly told anyone!

I found that in high school people thought I was making it up, that there was nothing wrong with me. So, of course I felt ashamed about it and often wondered if I was making it up. Now I know that the emotional pain I felt affected me physically and it was not my fault and I shouldn’t feel ashamed.

At the end of the day, I know what’s real and how I feel and I am incredibly grateful for the experiences I have had. :)

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Parenting Expert: “What is The Best Time to Move Your Third Culture Kids?” – 19. February, 2010

“What advice do you have for a family who’s about to move?” What is the “Golden time” to move children?

Robin Pascoe is the author of five self-help books about overseas living. Her perspectives has been featured on The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, The New York Times. She shares her insights with a live audience on TCK Academy.

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Keypoints:
* There is a “Golden time” for relocating: Listen to the audio to hear the full explanation.
Robin Pascoe – Raising Global Nomads: Parenting Abroad in an On-Demand World.Learn how to preserve your family’s mental health before, during and following relocation. Identify with our child’s emotions during a move.

Robin Pascoe, the author of five self-help books about overseas living. She speaks internationally on subjects relevant to global living. She has been interviewed by numerous international publications including The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, The New York Times, The International Herald Tribune, Working Mother Magazine, Utne Reader, CNN, and others.

In this 60-mins interview, you will learn how to:

* Preserve your family’s mental health before, during and following relocation.
* Identify with our child’s emotions during a move.
* Survive the challenges of parenting while abroad.
* Maintain one’s co-parenting relationship in an overseas assignment.
* Navigate parenting abroad in an on-demand world.
* Benefit from “lessons learned” through Robin’s experiences of raising children abroad.

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Expert: “What Type of Work is Best Suited for Third Culture Kids?” – 12. February, 2010

Donna Musil took seven years and 500 interviews of Third Culture Kids/Army Brats and shares her wisdom with TCK Academy.

“It took me 40 years to figure that out, but hopefully if those kids figure that out earlier, they’ll have much easier time with it.” – Donna Musil

Listen to the PREVIEW here: (2min)

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Keypoints:

* Many TCKs want to do something that has a service and mission aspect.

* Over 80 percent of TCKs are professionals, semi-professionals, executives, or managers/officials.

* Occupational choices reflect a continued love of learning, interest in helping, and desire for independence and flexibility.

* Fully one quarter work in educational institutions as teachers, professors, or administrators.

* 17% of TCKs are in professional settings, such as medical or legal fields.

* 17% of TCKs are self-employed, one-third of these as presidents of their own companies. The self-employed, in particular, reflect the creative and risktaking streak found in so many TCKs.

* One won’t find many TCKs in large corporations. Nor are there many in government. Two-thirds of the small number (6 percent) in this sample who have government Jobs are in foreign service/AID or in branches such as the Bureau of Wildlife and Fisheries, or national parks.

* “Do what you love and the money will come.”

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Cottrell AB, Useem RH (1994). TCKs maintain global dimensions throughout their lives. International Schools Services, 8(4). http://www.tckworld.com/useem/art5.html

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The Victim Mentality: “What’s The Next Bad Thing That Will Happen?” – 5. February, 2010

Grief expert Tom Query and Ruth Van Reken answers questions from caller.

Jan, Port Moody asks: “So many losses have accumulated over time. I feel like I ended up with a loss mentality where I now EXPECT losses. I believe this thinking invites more loss and is defeating.

How can someone who’s had so many losses from a TCK lifestyle free themselves from this pattern?”

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Keypoints:

* Having a victim mentality and thinking catastrophically “What’s the next bad thing that’s going to happen?” can be controlling in someone’s life.

*Neuropsychology says past experiences lays “road tracks” in the brain and new experiences can help you re-learn new behaviors.

*Delusion of choice: When we’ve given up making choices because we think: “Everytime we make a choice it never happens anyway.”

* You can learn through joy.

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Relocation Expert: “Don’t You Ever Do That to Your Children!” – 29. January, 2010

How can parents deal with outbursts from their own children? “My daughter is preparing for University and I have to deal with my own children and their response to this global lifestyle.”

Robin Pascoe is the author of five self-help books about overseas living. Her perspectives has been featured on The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, The New York Times. She shares her insights with a live audience on TCK Academy.

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Keypoints:
  • Children are silent partners in relocation.
  • You should expect outbursts from kids who don’t want to grow internationally.
  • Generally speaking, each child is different. If you have two kids, one will often be global and want to travel, one will be a treehugger and never want to leave home.

robin pascoeRobin Pascoe – Raising Global Nomads: Parenting Abroad in an On-Demand World.

Learn how to preserve your family’s mental health before, during and following relocation. Identify with our child’s emotions during a move.

Robin Pascoe, the author of five self-help books about overseas living. She speaks internationally on subjects relevant to global living. She has been interviewed by numerous international publications including The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, The New York Times, The International Herald Tribune, Working Mother Magazine, Utne Reader, CNN, and others.

In this 60-mins interview, you will learn how to:

* Preserve your family’s mental health before, during and following relocation.
* Identify with our child’s emotions during a move.
* Survive the challenges of parenting while abroad.
* Maintain one’s co-parenting relationship in an overseas assignment.
* Navigate parenting abroad in an on-demand world.
* Benefit from “lessons learned” through Robin’s experiences of raising children abroad.

Want to hear the full interview? Click Here to Get the full TCK Academy series. >>


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Protected: (Member only) Where In The World Is There Comfort For My Losses? – 24. January, 2010

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Grief Expert: “My Life is Good, But Why Don’t I Feel That Way?” – 9. January, 2010

How do we know if we have unresolved grief or when our grief has been resolved?

Tom is an experienced counselor who has helped over 1000 victims in 9/11 in NYC recover from grief and trauma. He talks live with TCKs to share his wisdom.

People often come to counseling and say: “I really don’t have anything to complain about, my life is good, but I don’t feel that way… I find myself withdrawing, angry, depressed, and I don’t know why. ”

Do you stop attaching as much to other relationships and you find yourself attaching to things rather than people?


How do we know if we have unresolved grief? (2 mins)

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“I have no complaints.” (2 mins)

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More from TCK Academy:

Expert: “Grief is Healthy And Has a Purpose”

Expert: “Where Should I Move And Live?”

How Do You Find a Sense of Belonging in College?

(Video) 5 Powerful Questions to Ask Yourself: The Actual Voice Dialogue Session

How Do I Find Relationships That Are Meaningful?

Dear Ruth, I’m still searching for my “home”

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A Path To Choice: Interview with Kellie Poulin and Terry Kinnard – 19. August, 2008

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A 75 minute interview on August 30 Kellie Poulin and Terry Kinnard of The Emergent Coach will discuss a process called Voice Dialogue. Voice Dialogue is a concept created by Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone that deals with bringing into our awareness the many parts or Selves that make up what we identify as our personality.

For TCK/CCK’s, Voice Dialogue offers a profound, non-judgmental, experiential tool to deal with the parts of you that have developed to help cope with having lived an internationally mobile or cross-cultural lifestyle while growing up.

This interview will NOT be just an interview! Kellie and Terry believe so much in what they do, they will conduct a Live Demonstration of how this process works!

In this demo, Terry and Kellie will be showing how the magic of this experiential tool can help you to embrace the gift of the parts of you that have been lost in the process of coping with constant moving, global exposure, grief and loss as well as issues of repatriation and fitting in.

Through this “language of consciousness” TCKs/CCKs can become acquainted with some of the Selves that potentially are part of your psychic make-up, as well as help to shed light on what might be blocked from your view.

” Apart of me feels/wants…”

After my phone session with our guest Kellie, I had so many light bulbs going off in my head, and was so amazed at the results, that I told my mom and all my friends about it!!

Brice Royer

Kellie and Terry will show you how this knowledge can:

· Shift your perspective

· Help you find ‘home’ inside

· Provide the ability to freely choose your path

You’ll learn…

  1. How to attract more of what you want from life by not allowing the Selves that protected you in the past from becoming your “saboteurs” rather than your “supporters”.
  2. Practical tools to support effective inner and interpersonal communication.
  3. The power that comes from choosing your actions rather than reacting to old patterns of behavior.
  4. How to honor your globally experienced parts and embrace them as an asset
  5. How to find the parts of you that you lost along the journey of your life and see how they can support you now.

Join us!

What: Live Interview with Kellie Poulin and Terry Kinnard

Who: The TCK Academy: Paulette Bethel and Brice Royer with guests Kellie Poulin and Terry Kinnard

Where: At your home or office: on the phone or on the web

When: Saturday, August 30 at 6:00 p.m. Eastern Time

Why: To increase your awareness about who you are and what it takes be find “home” inside

Cost: Zero – It’s free to attend the live event.

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About The Emergent Coach

Terry and Kellie created The Emergent Coach as a way to bring together their 30+ years of experience in the field of life coaching, spiritual psychotherapy, consciousness awareness pursuits and in particular their work with the Voice Dialogue process.

Their mission is to share the work of Voice Dialogue with others, shift conscious focus through utilizing the work of The Monroe Institute sound products and help clients discover the rich internal resources that can provide guidance, solace and meaningful awareness to life events.

About Kellie:

Kellie Poulin is a Canadian citizen living as a permanent resident in the U.S. She was raised in a domestically nomadic family as her father was a bush pilot and moved seasonally for his work. As an adult, Kellie lived briefly in Barbados, Florida, Northern Ontario and Toronto, Canada and has for the past five years lived in Denver, Colorado. Her journeys have given her an understanding of what it is like to move from one culture to another, albeit domestically. Over the past 15 years, her experience and training in the process of Voice Dialogue has helped her navigate these and other significant life changes and taught her how to cope. She earned a degree in Transpersonal Psychology as well as Canadian certification in Spiritual (mind-body-spirit) Psychotherapy in 2000. In Canada, she was a teaching and counseling faculty member of Transformational Arts College where she studied. Today, she works with her partner, Terry, in building their business, The Emergent Coach.

About Terry:

Terry Kinnard is a U.S. citizen who spent time in the Navy on submarines and traveled the world. His exposure to other cultures through his first marriage to a Dutch citizen, his dedicated explorations of eastern spiritual traditions and his career as a corporate executive has given him a valuable perspective of what it means to live outside one’s home country as well as return to changes and the unfamiliar at home. For the past 10 years, Terry has utilized both his training as a Master leader Coach in the Debbie Ford work and his passion – Voice Dialogue as well as the consciousness work of The Monroe Institute to support clients to move out of places in which they are stuck and flow into their own inspired life.

In their relationship, Terry and Kellie use Voice Dialogue as the key to opening the door to loving, committed communication and joyful discovery of each other and self. For them, it is the vital process that has helped them grow and trustfully explore their life together. Send Your Feedback to TCK Academy.


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