TCK Academy Class

“What advice do you have for a family who’s about to move?” What is the “Golden time” to move children?

Robin Pascoe is the author of five self-help books about overseas living. Her perspectives has been featured on The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, The New York Times. She shares her insights with a live audience on TCK Academy.

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Donna Musil took seven years and 500 interviews of Third Culture Kids/Army Brats and shares her wisdom with TCK Academy.

“It took me 40 years to figure that out, but hopefully if those kids figure that out earlier, they’ll have much easier time with it.” – Donna Musil

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Keypoints:

* Many TCKs want to do something that has a service and mission aspect.

* Over 80 percent of TCKs are professionals, semi-professionals, executives, or managers/officials.

* Occupational choices reflect a continued love of learning, interest in helping, and desire for independence and flexibility.

* Fully one quarter work in educational institutions as teachers, professors, or administrators.

* 17% of TCKs are in professional settings, such as medical or legal fields.

* 17% of TCKs are self-employed, one-third of these as presidents of their own companies. The self-employed, in particular, reflect the creative and risktaking streak found in so many TCKs.

* One won’t find many TCKs in large corporations. Nor are there many in government. Two-thirds of the small number (6 percent) in this sample who have government Jobs are in foreign service/AID or in branches such as the Bureau of Wildlife and Fisheries, or national parks.

* “Do what you love and the money will come.”

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Cottrell AB, Useem RH (1994). TCKs maintain global dimensions throughout their lives. International Schools Services, 8(4). http://www.tckworld.com/useem/art5.html

Grief expert Tom Query and Ruth Van Reken answers questions from caller.

Jan, Port Moody asks: “So many losses have accumulated over time. I feel like I ended up with a loss mentality where I now EXPECT losses. I believe this thinking invites more loss and is defeating.

How can someone who’s had so many losses from a TCK lifestyle free themselves from this pattern?”

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Keypoints:

* Having a victim mentality and thinking catastrophically “What’s the next bad thing that’s going to happen?” can be controlling in someone’s life.

*Neuropsychology says past experiences lays “road tracks” in the brain and new experiences can help you re-learn new behaviors.

*Delusion of choice: When we’ve given up making choices because we think: “Everytime we make a choice it never happens anyway.”

* You can learn through joy.

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How can parents deal with outbursts from their own children? “My daughter is preparing for University and I have to deal with my own children and their response to this global lifestyle.”

Robin Pascoe is the author of five self-help books about overseas living. Her perspectives has been featured on The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, The New York Times. She shares her insights with a live audience on TCK Academy.

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Robin Pascoe – Raising Global Nomads: Parenting Abroad in an On-Demand World.

Learn how to preserve your family’s mental health before, during and following relocation. Identify with our child’s emotions during a move.

Robin Pascoe, the author of five self-help books about overseas living. She speaks internationally on subjects relevant to global living. She has been interviewed by numerous international publications including The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, The New York Times, The International Herald Tribune, Working Mother Magazine, Utne Reader, CNN, and others.

In this 60-mins interview, you will learn how to:

* Preserve your family’s mental health before, during and following relocation.
* Identify with our child’s emotions during a move.
* Survive the challenges of parenting while abroad.
* Maintain one’s co-parenting relationship in an overseas assignment.
* Navigate parenting abroad in an on-demand world.
* Benefit from “lessons learned” through Robin’s experiences of raising children abroad.

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How do we know if we have unresolved grief or when our grief has been resolved?

Tom is an experienced counselor who has helped over 1000 victims in 9/11 in NYC recover from grief and trauma. He talks live with TCKs to share his wisdom.

People often come to counseling and say: “I really don’t have anything to complain about, my life is good, but I don’t feel that way… I find myself withdrawing, angry, depressed, and I don’t know why. ”

Do you stop attaching as much to other relationships and you find yourself attaching to things rather than people?

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“I have no complaints.” (2 mins)

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